Want to be successful? Take these 7 steps.

1. Consider yourself important.

Successful people respect themselves. They obtain self-respect by looking inside and pondering their shortcomings, rather than denying them. 

• Dwell on your positive characteristics.

• Constantly remind yourself you are awesome even if you make mistakes.

• Honor and value your principles.

• Respect your own needs and wants and do and say what feels right to you.

• Advertise your strengths, not your weaknesses.

2. Be kind to your mind.

Successful people would never speak to their closest friends or their children in a cruel way, so they don’t speak to themselves that way. They are aware that by being unkind to themselves, they subconsciously attract others to be unkind to them. 

• Be aware of your triggers, beliefs and habits and reframe them.

• Be considerate to yourself

• Record every single success – whatever the size in  a success journal.

• Say over and over again ‘I can and I will’.

• Give up the compulsive need for approval.

3. Be comfortable being who you are.

Successful people  have self-acceptance, regardless of their past, their mistakes or their weaknesses.

• Stop shaming yourself.

• Accept you are perfectly imperfect. .

• Appreciate, validate, accept, respect, cherish, like and honour yourself regardless of how others treat you.

• Stay true to yourself.

• Stop comparing and despairing.

4. Trust yourself and your intuition.

Successful people  are their own master. They are comfortable being in charge of what they think, do and say, as they trust themselves. They know their intellectual mind is strong, yet their intuition is way wiser and far more accurate.

• Know your purpose.

• Practice self-discipline.

• Always remember the power of intuition.

• Listen to you inner voice.

• Challenge all negative assumptions.

5. Raise your standards 

Successful people know self-belief is the main pillar of success, They  have indestructible self-belief.  They feel worthy of success, happiness and prosperity.

• Change your perceptions.

• Get clear about your individuality and preferences.

• Don’t get discouraged by mistakes.

• Embrace uncertainty and let go of self-defeating beliefs.

• Say over and over again ‘I am more than good enough.’

6. Be accountable for your choices.

Successful people know it’s their choice and responsibility to confront their fears or run away from them, be stressed, or be grounded, be lazy or be fit, be overweight, or be slim, get enough sleep, or be constantly tired, respond or react. 

• Admit when you are wrong

• Set limits with others.

• Know self-care is not selfish, it is self-loving.

• Don’t wait to be rescued, instead take action.

• Be aware you have a responsibility to be good to yourself.

7. Be more assertive

Successful people do not waffle, or feel obliged to justify, defend or explain their reasoning. They know their rights feel worthy, important and deserving. They have an ‘I like you, but I like me too’ approach.

• Don’t allow anxiety to build

• Use anger to be assertive in a healthy way

• Have reasonable expectations of yourself and others.

• Decide what you need and ask for it in a non- aggressive way

• Take advantage of opportunities

Ø When I first started on my journey of self – discovery, I didn’t have a mentor, coach or a tribe to support me.  I kept taking action and nothing was changing. This left me frustrated, depressed and with a sense that life was just passing me by. Having got the confidence factor and raising my self – esteem and trading my self – doubt for self – assurance I have helped thousands of people do the same.

Ø I’m not perfect and not claiming to be, but if I screw up, I bounce back really fast, rather than getting stuck for days, weeks, months or years like I used to.You don't have to have it all figured out, where you want to get to, how you will get there, all you have to do have to do is to take the first small step.